One For The ladies to check Out

[~Genie~]

Ok, This guy was on one of my radio stations. He is a speaker at many places. He speaks allot. He is some kind of doctor, but never caught the beginning of the show to see what kind he was. If he isnt a doctor, he is some kind of therapist. Anyway, Here is the point. We women try to understand men so much. Well, ALLOT of what this guy says made SO much sense. I will throw ya his weblink to, but first, check this out. This is a piece from what he was talking about on the radio and on his website.
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Do you feel like you have been put on Lay-Away?

I have received a number of inquiries lately from women who are perplexed by the fact that the words expressed by their male love interests do not match their actions. Women are being told by their beaus, "Sure, I love you. You know that." "We will be together forever, and soon." "Of course you are the only one for me." "We'll get married someday."
"I am not interested in anyone else." But are these statements actually true? What do these words actually mean?

Here us EXACTLY what I tell my audiences...
In male ease, men could be saying several different things....
First, he could be telling you the truth and his words mean exactly what he said.This is rare, but possible.
Next, he may be too young, or old, or immature to make that major a decision or commitment at this time in his life.

He has been burned or divorced before and has no intention of marrying again any time soon and realizes that his words will keep you around awhile longer before he is given an ultimatum to which he must respond.

He is confused about what to do and not ready to make a commitment to one person.

He may be a gentleman (or gutless) and he doesn't want to hurt you by telling you the truth.

He is not ready to experience the loss of freedom that accompanies a true loss of "bachelor hood."

He may not be able to trust himself as he has not yet "sewn his wild oats" and fears that he may still be attracted to others and could cheat on you in the future, if he is not already.

He may realize that he is solidly in the middle of his sexual prime and not ready to settle down or be faithful to any one person.


He has diminished feelings for you or has lost one or more of the Five Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship: Trust, Respect, Intimacy, Passion and Commitment for you.


He has feelings for someone else and can't bring himself to tell you or isn't exactly sure what those feelings mean to him.


He is feeling smothered and needs some distance from you.\

He is experiencing pangs of guilt for how sexual you both have been, or realizes that the sex is not all that great between you two or that sex is the only thing he truly wants out of the relationship or he is not getting sex from you and seeking (or getting it) from someone else.

No matter what line or excuse he uses, and there are many more than I listed above, he is basically putting you on "lay away." He is asking you to put your life on hold, not date anyone else and be there for him once he has lived life to the fullest, and made up his mind (if he ever does) as to whether he wants YOU or not. You must play Regis and ask yourself, will you be his "final answer?"

Think of it this way, if you go to a store and put an item on lay away, the store gives you a certain date and time that you must return and purchase the item by or they will place it back on the rack for public consumption. You might come back and actually purchase the item, but there is a higher probability that you will not. You may forget that it is there or rationalize yourself out of the purchase. You may find something cheaper or an item that better meets your needs. You may simply lose interest or your taste may change over time. You might get lazy, never go back to that particular store, simply get low on funds or completely forget that you placed it on lay away in the first place. No matter what, the negatives associated with the "lay away" mentality, outweigh the positives.

Your man is taking a huge risk letting you out there to be dated, because you just might not be there when he comes back to pick up his "purchase" (unless you give other men the impression that you are taken or "damaged goods" and they all shy away).

You have a decision to make that no one can make for you. Pine away and wait and hope that he comes back for his "purchase," or move on and live your life to the fullest.

www.datingdoctor.com

[~Genie~]

Here is another one. FUNNY AND TRUE, again it is taken from: www.datingdoctor.com
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How to French Kiss and Making Kissing Count

French kissing involves the use of your tongue when kissing, often inside the mouth of the other person. They, in turn, use their tongue as well. Many people make the mistake of moving their tongue around too fast inside the mouth of the other person, being too aggressive, hard, sloppy or impatient. It is best to alter your pace and pressure over time. At times, follow the lead of the other person while at other times take control. Be careful, as heavy, passionate kissing can lead people to want or expect more in terms of physical intimacy or sex. It often creates desire in people that they may or may not be ready for or may or may not be able to control.

The problem that most people have is that they see kissing as a means to an end not a separate activity or entity unto itself. Men especially are often too rough, too fast and lack knowledge of the five P?s of kissing: Patience, Passion, Pacing, Pressure and Practice.

A successful kisser has an innate sixth sense when it comes to being appropriately passionate. They react to their partner?s lead and don?t feel the need to dictate or control the action, but will if the situation dictates. They exhibit the perfect balance between tenderness and aggressiveness, between spontaneity and consistency, between sweetness and sensuality.

A passionate person does not begin by kissing or caressing the most sensitive locations first (such as the neck and ears). Rather they end up there after focusing adequate attention on areas that are often overlooked such as the corners of the mouth, lips (individually), temples, eye lids, fingertips and palms of the hand. Your tongue can be used during these kisses as well, just don?t become get too sloppy. Plus, they refrain from over-stimulating other parts of the body while kissing as not to divert their partner?s attention away from the kissing.

Several common kissing mistakes that people make which are correctable are allowing themselves to have atrocious breath, leaping from kissing to other desires too rapidly, and engaging in excessive teasing. A bit of teasing can be quite arousing, but when taken to the extreme can become rather annoying. People seldom take the risk to ask their partners what they truly enjoy or what brings them the greatest pleasure. They rely solely on trial and error. As long as your trial outweighs your error this method should work. Never be afraid to ask the person you are kissing what type of kiss they enjoy. They will only be too happy to inform you.

The single biggest turn off expressed to me was kissing someone who had just smoked. One woman claimed that ?Kissing someone who smokes is like cleaning out an ash tray with my lips and tongue. I taste it for days.? One man described what he liked best about kissing when he added, ?When a woman takes control, knows what she is doing and is creative, it?s the bomb! I feel as if I have gotten the day off!?

To become an effective kisser, anticipate as well as you participate. Be as tender as you are aggressive and as able as you are willing. Be creative and truly care about the other person?s pleasure and happiness as much as you do your own, and always remember that to be a great kisser it takes practice, practice and a bit more practice! There is no way to teach kissing by reading words, you must try it for yourself. Good luck.

This greeting card message may sum it all up the best. The Kiss . . . Once upon a time there was a kiss that hadn't happened yet. Two people wanted the kiss to happen, and they wanted it to be ?Just Right!? The kiss didn?t worry about being ?Just Right.? The kiss simply wanted to exist, to be the first of many such moments between two people who were already ?Just Right!?

And when their lips finally met (shyly introducing themselves to each other), it was like two voices singing two notes that sound better together than either would sound alone. There would be other kisses, but the two people would always remember this ONE, the way you never forget some songs, smells or sights. It was just a kiss, just a moment, but it was ?Just Right!?